Hair Loss In Women – A Survival Plan

Hair loss in women (female pattern baldness and alopecia) is a much more traumatic experience than it is for any man. When a woman loses her hair she sometimes feels that she looks like a man, particularly if she sees a back view of her head in the mirror. I was horrified at first by the horrendous stumpy shape of my skull. I looked like a little old man. The black, hopeless thoughts set in. ‘How the hell will any man fancy me again? Worse, what if that sympathetic look comes into his eyes?’

You know the initial dilemma with alopecia in women is self-pity. You know there are millions worse off. But you still feel terrible. There are many answers to the question of what causes hair loss in women, but that doesn’t help us overcome it – at least not initially. Having said that, the new Hair Again report helped me understand and determine more about hair loss in women causes, and ultimately gave me hope in regrowing my hair. Before I carry on with my story, take a few minutes to watch the video review of Hair Again that I’ve uploaded on this site – I think you’ll be glad you did….

Tips For Dealing With Hair Loss In Women

So, back to the plot. Here’s a few first hand tips about dealing with hair loss in women.

Make space. Get away for a few days if you can. Give yourself time to take stock and to start to come to terms with it. Take a copy of the Hair Again report with you and evolve your survival plan.

Hair Loss In Women

First, take a vow of silence. Don’t keep talking about it to your partner. He has had a shock too. You have started to cope with it. You are thinking positively – most of the time, anyway – and doing as much as you can to help yourself. You think about hair a great deal, you gaze at heads, bald or otherwise, everywhere you go. But the subject of hair loss in women may be a bore or a turn-off for your husband. He didn’t marry a baldie, after all. He married you – with hair. Your sudden transformation may shatter him at first, particularly if he is not over-confident himself.

In an ideal world, a life partner should love you for what you really are, not what you look like. But this is not an ideal world and he will need time to adjust. Even if he is not upset, talking about hair loss in women and in particular your hair loss may bore him, as any man gets bored when a woman goes on at length about her appearance, even if she is a great beauty.

So shut up. Once you’ve lost your hair, anyway, there isn’t very much to say about it, so restrain yourself from endless discussions about hair loss in women. This will have the added bonus of silencing him as well. If he is the type to make jokes this can be very hard to take. The laughs become a little strained after a while.

You are also going to work hard. When you are lucky enough to have hair you can afford, occasionally, to ‘let yourself go’, slop around in ancient denims, wear your face as innocent of make-up as any paid-up member of the women’s movement. But when you have lost your hair, and possibly your eyebrows and eyelashes as well, obviously you are minus an important part of your appearance.

Hair Loss In women Doesn’t Stop You From Being Attractive

You will have to make up the balance by working harder to look attractive in every other way, every day. Work towards feeling happy about yourself again. Self-esteem and a good self-image are vitally important, even more so when experiencing women’s hair loss. No more slopping around for you, no days off. You will adapt your life to your handicap as people adapt when they have more serious medical conditions. The mastectomy patient learns to compensate with a prosthesis instead of a breast. The colostomy patient learns to cope with the inconvenience of a colostomy bag. Hair loss in women doesn’t hurt physically. It is not life-threatening. It is, after all, only our hair.

Eyeliner Pencils Are A Great Help With Hair Loss In Women

The worst thing about hair loss in women is losing my eyelashes and eyebrows. How can I look like a human being again?

Losing these is a very difficult area of hair loss in women and can actually be harder than losing your hair. Even men have been known to struggle with eyebrow pencils to try to reconstruct the appearance of normality. For a woman it is easier, as people are accustomed to seeing her wearing make-up.

Find an old photograph of yourself to try to match up the eyebrow line. Instead of an eyebrow pencil try a cake eyeliner with a very fine brush to paint in fairs’ in the direction in which normal eyebrow lines would be going. Yes, it does take ages, but the effect is quite natural. Soft brown is a good color unless you normally had blue-black eyebrows!

Susan Crabtree, a young college lecturer from Burnley, Lancashire, UK suggests a soft kohl pencil to give the same effect as brush strokes. If you don’t like the shape you can always rub out the line and start again.

False eyelashes help, but they need to be the lighter, smaller type, kept mainly to the outer comer of the eye. Taken into the centre, they have the effect of making the eyes look smaller. They should be applied after eye shadow.

Susan says she has never found it too much of a problem. A perfectly normal look can be achieved by the clever use of eyeliner. Use a kohl pencil to draw a line inside the upper and lower lids, then smudge it carefully.

Without the protection of lashes against dust in the air and particles flying off roads, eyes can get really sore. ‘Hypo-allergenic make-up is worth the extra expense,’ says Susan. ‘Your eyes will also benefit from a good eyebath from time to time, with one of the chemist’s soothing eye lotions.’

Hopefully this will help you come to terms with losing your hair. But it’s not all doom and gloom – if you haven’t already, watch the video review of Hair Again on this site, or if you’re pushed for time, check out the Hair Again site directly (click here), where John shows you how to deal with, and even cure alopecia and hair loss in women.